Let me ask you this:
If you tell a plant to grow tall, will that make it flourish?
Maybe if you shout at it, it will truly hear you and obey?
Or better yet, why not shake it from its root so that it really get’s the point?
Now, let me ask you something else:
If you tend to the plants basic needs for water and sunlight, will that make it flourish?
Maybe if you use a gentle, warm hand, it will have a chance to grow?
What will happen if you prune the plant, letting go of what is no longer needed?
We wouldn’t expect a plant to grow, let alone flourish, if we treated it cruelly. So, we cannot expect the same for ourselves. Only when we give ourselves what we truly need, do we have a chance to thrive.